Temperaments in Brief

This chart adapted from “Personality Plus” by Florence Littauer

Sanguine Tiggers

Strengths
Appealing Personality
Talkative
Storyteller
Life of the Party
Funny
Loves color
Hugger
Cheerful
Bubbly
Actor
Innocent
Changeable
Flashy
Loves People
Life is exciting

Weaknesses
Distractable
Unorganized
Interrupts
Irresponsible
Too Talkative
Brassy
Self-centered

Choleric Rabbit


Strengths

Leader
Bold
Decisive
Productive
Risk Taker
Independent
Self Motivated
Tenacious
Confidential
Resourceful
Competitive
Intelligent
Strong willed
Adventurous

Weaknesses
Bossy
Arrogant
Tactless
Intolerant
Stubborn
Impatient
Angers easily
Prideful
Workaholic

Melancholy Eeyore

Strengths
Logical
Organized
Planner
Strategist
Genius IQ
High standard
Persistent
Philosopher
Detailed
Faithful
Loyal
Idealist
Sensitive
Controlled
Analytical

Weaknesses
Pessimistic
Unemotional
Unforgiving
Resistant
Fussy
Hard to please
Loner

Phlegmatic Pooh

Strengths
Amiable
Peaceful
Calm
Adaptable
Self-sacrificing
Considerate
Compassionate
Respectful
Easy going
Patient
Diplomatic
Thoughtful
Listener
Mediator

Weaknesses
Bashful
Unenthusiastic
Fearful
Indecisive
Aimless
Worrier
Unmotivated

The Path

Are you walking the Path you are meant to walk? If you answered yes, congratulations, you are among the minority. You are in the right place to help you further on your journey. If you answered “no” or ” I don’t know”, you are in the right place, too, because within The Path section you will find plenty of guidance and resources to help you find your Path. Everyone, no matter where they are in the journey, will find tools to help along the way.

You may be feeling like you’re not quite on the right Path. You may have this sense within you that there is something more you were created for. Or, you might not be vague about it at all. You might be sure your life is not all it is meant to be. The trick is – how do we find what it is we were created to do?

Our Path is unique to each of us. It is the relationships we build, the works of our hands, the blessings we share and the legacy we leave. While we serve the same God, follow the same commandments, and seek to do His will, we do it in different ways.

We are all a different combination of our personality type,  spiritual gifts,  learning style,  life experiences,  passions, talents and interests. While there are only so many different temperaments, when you layer on our unique gifts, experiences, skills, etc, there are so many possible combinations that no two people are exactly alike.

Within The Path section are the articles, lessons, and other resources to help you discover more about yourself. Learn about your personality type  and it’s strengths and weaknesses. Discover your spiritual gifts and begin to see the how the hand of God has been moving in your life in ways you never realized. Click here to start down The Path

The Map

We are all looking for the map that will guide us through this life. Life can be confusing, discouraging and just plain frustrating. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there was some place we could turn to for all the answers? A tome filled with  wisdom and comfort that would have the perfect solutions, no matter what the situation? This search for higher guidance is a desire common to all of us. Just look at the self help section of the local bookstore. The shelves are full of worldly wisdom designed to tickle our ears and entice us with secrets. While we might find an encouraging word or two or an idea that seems like it might work, ultimately nothing ever changes.

Yet, there is always this knowing deep inside that keeps telling us “you were created for more than this; your life has a purpose”.  Are you hearing that call? Do you hope and pray that the call is real and not just another dead end? The truth found within the Bible will show how to fulfill the longing within us. God calls it the desires of our heart, and He promises to fulfill those desires if we will only follow Him. He knows what you are hoping for. He put those dreams and desires in you to begin with! He is faithful to complete what He started.

The Map section is all about God’s promises to us and lessons on living His way. He did create you for a purpose and He equipped you with everything you need to walk in that purpose. To learn more read on….. Reading The Map

Who Does God think I am?

Have you ever thought about that? We spend so much of our time worrying about what others think about us, hoping we impress and please; trying to meet others expectations. All in the pursuit of getting some validation, some pat on the back from another mere mortal. We often build our entire self image out of the words other people have used to describe us. Good or bad, the words we’ve heard or the treatment we receive, become an integral part of how we perceive ourselves.

Have you ever stopped to consider – who does God think I am? And is that part how I truly view myself? If you’ve been a Christian for more than a week or two, you’ve probably heard the more familiar: I am a child of the Most High God, I am a fellow heir with Christ, I am a new creation in Christ. All true, thank you Lord, but there is more to the story. 1 Corinthians 12:7 -27 says you are the body of Christ, gifted by the Holy Spirit with gifts of wisdom, knowledge, faith, discernment and more.

Romans 12 says we have “gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us.” Gifts of prophesy, ministering, teaching, exhortation, administration, giving, mercy, leadership have been given to each of us according to His grace. In Ephesians 4 it says, speaking of Jesus, “When He ascended on high, (he) gave gifts to men. And He Himself gave some [to be] apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, and some pastors and teachers” v 8 & 11.

1 Peter 4:10 confirms this habit God has of giving gifts to us: “As each one has received a gift, minister it to one another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.” (emphasis mine). We are to minister our gifts to one another – use them in the service of others. That’s not a suggestion. It is a biblical command.

So who does God think you are? He doesn’t think, He knows. You are either a leader, a teacher, an exhorter (encourager), a pastor, a prophet, an apostle, an administrator, a giver, an evangelist, helper, one who shows mercy, etc. Those verses above cover the range of gifts and abilities given to us by God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. Those are not aptitudes given to a select few. Those are not talents and abilities reserved for those in the professional ministry. They are definitely not “old testament and no longer in effect today.” Every Christian has been given gifts meant to be used to minister to others.

Do you have unique gifts? Most of us, in our heads would say, “well, yes, the Bible says I do” yet in our hearts we really don’t believe we are anything special. Let me clear that up once and for all. I don’t know you, but if you were created by God (and you were), you have been given those gifts. It was built in to you right from the beginning, it is the things you are naturally drawn toward. You can learn to recognize and use those abilities to their fullest.

More than anything, I want you to begin to see yourself as God sees you. Not as “just a mom, or wife, or employee” but as a teacher, or a giver, or as a preacher, or a bringer of mercy, an encourager or whatever gift(s) you have been endowed with.

As I mentioned at the beginning, most of us were raised with certain expectations put on us by other about who we are, and who we are going to be. Often those expectations are misleading, based on someone else’s unfilled expectations in their own lives, or just plain lies. We grow up with parents, or school teachers and coaches or school mates who have their own biases, hurts and struggles. Those inner turmoils create a blurry filter through which they see us and judge our worth. No one sees clearly who we were truly created to be except the creator Himself. Unfortunately it is the other, imperfect human being to whom we usually look for our self image.

If you were brought up by a parent who failed to achieve some long held dream in their own life, you might have been pressured to achieve that same dream in their place. Perhaps in school you were constantly taunted with words like “loser” “geek” “dork” or worse, those expectations and words became part of the image you have of yourself.

Unfortunately, the expectations and words of others settle deep into our souls and those pictures of ourselves become our reality. They are what we believe in our heart to be true. It can be difficult to root those beliefs out and to change them. There is only one way to do that – seek the Lord and ask Him to reveal His truth in your life. You can do your part by studying the scripture verses that reveal what God has to say about us.  Click here:  (Who We Are In God Free Download) if you would like a free, downloadable, pdf of scriptures that tell us exactly who we are in God and what He has to say about us. Use this little booklet as a guide during your devotions.

Replacing false beliefs about ourselves with God’s truth is the first and most vital step toward becoming who we were meant to be. We have to cast off the old self and take on the new. You can’t move into your new life while carrying the baggage of the past.

You are indeed special, you were created for a purpose, and you have a unique temperament,  aptitudes, abilities and experiences that set you apart from everyone else. Not only do you have  special, God-ordained spiritual gifts, you have aptitudes and abilities that will enable you to use those gifts in a way that only you can. You are called to find and walk in that purpose. Finding your purpose is not just a “good idea” or something to get around to, some day. Finding and living out your purpose IS your life’s work. Remember 1 Peter 4:10 from earlier? ” As each one HAS received a gift, minister it to one another…” It doesn’t say some have received or may receive, it says each one has received.

It is imperative that we do uncover the truth of who we were created to be and cast off the deceptive perceptions of ourselves. 1 Timothy 4:14 instructs us to “not neglect the gift that is in you.” Sometimes we think it is being humble to say “oh I don’t have any gifts, I’m nothing special” Can I share a hard truth with you? That kind of talk is not humility, it is a prideful heart that is saying: “I know more about me than God. He may say I have gifts, that I am fearfully and wonderfully made, but I know better.” Ouch. Still with me? The good news is we don’t have to try and be anything we’re not. Better yet, we are free to cast off the expectations of others. That is our real burden and the one we are not meant to carry.

When we are told, even from childhood, that we are a certain way – clumsy, fat, too bossy, lazy, noisy, whatever; or even if we are given a seemingly positive expectation: “oh Jackie’s going to be a doctor like her father”; if God did not ordain it, He did not gift us with the necessary equipping, then it is a false expectation and we end up laboring hard to fulfill it. We may be able in our own strength to have a measure of success and of course God can turn anything to good for those who believe. But we still have a vague, dissatisfied feeling inside. When we take up God’s yoke and walk in the path He laid before us, it may not always be easy, but it will fit. We will be blessed and we will bless those around us.

Welcome to LifeWorks

This is the home of Life Works Ministries. Our mission is to help you discover the truth of who you really are in Christ, what He created you to be, and your unique and special purpose on this earth. We are not meant to live as the world lives; to struggle with insecurities and uncertainty. God has provided all we need to live a victorious, successful, and purpose-filled life.

Life Works

The Map

Life Works is a three part vision. Part one is The Map. Life Works the way it was intended to when we make the Bible our guide book.  By learning its promises, listening to its truth and living by its instructions, we will be equipped to overcome the obstacles along our journey.

The Path

Part two is The Path, our Life’s Work. What path are we meant to follow? Each of us has been uniquely gifted to fulfill a specific calling on this earth. Too often the world has stepped in and planted a defining label on us that deflects and distracts us from our true purpose. By uncovering, understanding and embracing what is special about ourselves we can begin the journey toward a life that works!

The Tools

Part three is The Tools. Where the rubber meets the road: our Life’s Work. This section puts it all together and provides the tools we need to navigate our way. There are articles, audios and videos, free downloads, organizers, goal setting helps and more.

Welcome to LifeWorks and may you be blessed, encouraged and inspired as you explore all we offer.

Choosing the Right Home Business

Why do you want your own business?

Beyond the expected – “to make more money, why else, silly?” I’m asking you to think about what lifestyle you want. There are plenty of ways to make money. Some take 50+ hours a week, some take 5-10 hours. Some require you to go to others homes and some allow you to work from your laptop wherever you are. To help you really think through why you are pursuing a business I offer the 5 Why Method.
The 5 Why method originated with the Toyota manufacturing company. When faced with a decision, the management was taught to ask “why” 5 times. For you it might work like this:
“Why do I want to have my own business” – to make money from home
“Why do I want to make money from home” – I hate my job and I want to be home with my kids
“Why do I hate my job” – it doesn’t pay enough, the hours are long, the boss is a @$%^, and I have to miss the kid’s soccer games.
“Why do you have to miss the games?” – because I can’t get the time off
“Why can’t you get the time off?” – I have to be in the office every hour it is open.

From this process, you could gather that while the obvious answer to “Why do I want my own business?” is: to make more money, the deeper answer is “I want the flexibility to be there for my children.”

Now we can start to narrow down the options for business choices:
*You could start a retail scrapbook store, but that really wouldn’t help the problem as brick and mortar stores take 50 to 100 hours a week to get up and running.
*If you decide to sell custom made wedding albums and get into partnership with a photographer, what if she sends you 5 orders a month during the peak wedding season, are you prepared to put in that much time for a short period? Would that time conflict with soccer season?
*You might come to realize selling custom made baby albums to retail baby stores is a good fit. This gives you more control over your time, somewhat easier marketing (one customer to supply over and over rather than getting new customers for each product,) and a little less profit.

If you are truly serious about starting and succeeding in business, you’ll want to take the time to really think through these types of questions. Having a better understanding of yourself and what your objectives are will put you well ahead of the pack. You’ve heard that 4 out of 5 businesses fail within the first 5 years. You know there are millions of abandoned blogs and web sites out there. Most of those folks had a dream to start a business but they didn’t have a realistic idea of what they could do and how much time they could put into it.
You’re going to start your business off on a much better foundation because you’re taking the time to get a good idea of what business will realistically fit your lifestyle.

Choosing a Web Host

Thanks to Nicole Dean of Mom Webs hosting for this great article on what to look for when choosing a web host:

Web Hosting Checklist for Moms: This Decision Can Make or Break your Business

If you’re a work at home mom like me, you may also have struggled with finding reliable web hosting. Well, over the years (and many headaches later), I’ve come up with a checklist of essentials that your web host must have before you even consider working with them.

1. Excellent Reliability.
There is nothing more frustrating than finding out your website is down, and has been for hours. Although no time is a good time to have your site down, the timing can be just terrible. That sinking feeling when you’ve purchased advertising and you know the ad is about to be sent out and
you go to your website for last minute touches and … it’s down.

That is not cool. That is not acceptable. You must make sure that the web host you select not only has good reliability, but superior reliability. This is your business on the line, not some hobby site. Treat it as such and get hosting that works for you when you need it. But, you can’t just trust a website that says they are reliable. Make sure they can prove it.

2. Superior Customer Support.
When you do need help, make sure that your hosting will provide it. One thing I recommend is to contact support to ask a simple question about the hosting, before buying. That will give you an idea of what the customer service is like before you make a commitment. Yes, customer service has a difficult job – making sure they do not confuse less-experienced customers, yet, at the same time, also making sure not
to talk down to the geek types. However, you should never feel like you are a “bother” or that your question is not as important as anyone else’s.. or worse, dumb. You should find a web host with superior customer support.

3. The Stats You Need.
Several of the most popular hosts do not offer the web stats that every online business needs. You may not think that you need stats, but, how else are you going to know what is working – and what is not? You need stats that tell you where your visitors are coming from, how long they are staying, and which pages they are coming in and going from. Does your web host offer that? If they have a CPanel as their control panel, they do. Find a web host that uses a standard CPanel.

4. Affordable.
Why spend more if you don’t have to? When looking for a web host, price is always a factor. So, shop around and make sure that the web host you decide upon offers a great price.

5. Room to Grow.
The web host you choose should offer unlimited hosting. This means, that, if you add more websites to your package down the road, the price does not increase drastically for each one. Many online businesses start with one site and grow over time. Can your host grow with you?

6. Bandwidth and Disk Space.
Also, make sure that the host you choose is in the ballpark for bandwidth and disk space. Most programs offer approximately the same amount, but, especially if you plan to add a lot of audio or video, be sure to look into this, as well.

7. A History of Happy Customers.
New hosting companies are popping up daily. Some are being run by a couple of teenagers in their garage. Obviously, that’s not who I want to entrust my business to. Do you? I want to know that the company I’m choosing has been around a few years, and has a history of happy customers to show for it. I don’t think that’s too much to ask, and you shouldn’t either.

Those are the key features that any web host should offer before you consider doing business with them. Choosing a web host can be more important than any other decision you make in your online business – if you choose wrong. So, take the time and find a web host that will work with you, and help you to succeed.

Nicole Dean is co-owner of Mom Webs Hosting – www.MomWebs.com where you’ll find the host that offers everything a work at home mom needs – reliability, unlimited hosting, and customer service that never makes you feel intimidated — all at a price you can afford.

Be A Hero

I found this ad just the other day and I love it! We have so many goof ups, mistakes, challenges and failings in our past that continually bump around in our head trying to distract us from moving ahead.

Stephen Covey first conveyed this thought – our power lies in our ability to chose our responses. It is that moment between situation and response where we choose to be a hero and move forward in a positive and pro-active way or we listen to those old voices and just give up.

Your past does not have to determine your future, today’s decisions do.

Update 1/01/10 – since I made the above post, Tiger Woods has fallen upon hard times – brought about by his own choices, obviously. It will be interesting to see how he chooses to respond. Will he face up to his mistakes and move forward with integrity and dignity?

More importantly – what challenges are you facing today? What mistakes are following you around? Will you choose to use them as opportunities for growth and move on?

As of this moment, Tiger is out of the spotlight – re-grouping and trying to figure out where to go from here. There’s a lesson for us in that. Sometimes we need to step back and re-group, too. It’s okay to take some time to reflect and even wallow a little bit in our errors. Just don’t stay there!

Finding Your Why

We all know about time management and using calendars to keep track of our days and to plan our steps, but we also need some gas to keep us going. The gas is your why. Your why is the reason you are running your own business in the first place. You have to dig a little deeper to find this, but once you do, it will give you the motivation to get back on your path even when the distractions are enormous.

By asking yourself “why” five times in a row, you will drill down into the real reasons behind your actions, beliefs or desires. You can use this method to problem solve any number of situations, but here is a brief peek at how it can work to give you unshakable motivation and energy to propel you to success:

Start by asking the obvious question. In this case it would be: Why do you want your own business?

Beyond the expected “to make more money, why else, silly?”  I’m asking you to think about what lifestyle you want. As you answer these questions for yourself, really think about what freedoms, material goods, or other benefits you want to gain from your business and by the end of this process you will have a much clearer vision, a compeling “why” to go after your dream! Here is an example of how someone might answer the five whys:

* “Why do I want to have my own business?” To make money from home.

* “Why do I want to make money from home?” I hate my job and I want to be home with my kids.

* “Why do I hate my job?” It doesn’t pay enough, the hours are long, the boss is a jerk, and I have to miss the kid’s soccer games.

* “Why do you have to miss the games?” Because I can’t get the time off.

* “Why can’t you get the time off?” I have to be in the office every hour it is open.

From this process, you could gather that while the obvious answer to “Why do I want my own business?” is: to make more money, the deeper answer is “I want the flexibility to be there for my children”.

Now you’ve reached a reason that resonates with your very soul. This is the reason that will motivate you to pick up the phone and make that call or start up the computer and write that article or do whatever step you’ve been putting off. Once you have spent some time digging deep into envisioning your why and fully identifying the results you want, now you can start to harvest the benefits of intense focus. This kind of focus, this kind of envisioning the life you want to live, will give you the energy and clarity you need to ignore distractions, to get back on track when you do get pulled away, and to help you really see what your next step is. When you get into this “zone” amazing things start to happen. Resources and mentors appear that have just the information or skill you need. Success starts to happen in ways you never dreamed of. You become like an airplane that has expended 80% of its energy just getting to its proper altitude, but once it’s there the rest of the trip takes much less effort.

Where can your “why” lead you?

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Uncovering the Gifts Within Us