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Uncovering our unique purpose

Temperaments in Brief

This chart adapted from “Personality Plus” by Florence Littauer

Sanguine Tiggers

Appealing Personality
Life of the Party
Loves color
Loves People
Life is exciting

Too Talkative

Choleric Rabbit


Risk Taker
Self Motivated
Strong willed

Angers easily

Melancholy Eeyore

Genius IQ
High standard

Hard to please

Phlegmatic Pooh

Easy going


The Path

Are you walking the Path you are meant to walk? If you answered yes, congratulations, you are among the minority. You are in the right place to help you further on your journey. If you answered “no” or ” I don’t know”, you are in the right place, too, because within The Path section you will find plenty of guidance and resources to help you find your Path. Everyone, no matter where they are in the journey, will find tools to help along the way.

You may be feeling like you’re not quite on the right Path. You may have this sense within you that there is something more you were created for. Or, you might not be vague about it at all. You might be sure your life is not all it is meant to be. The trick is – how do we find what it is we were created to do?

Our Path is unique to each of us. It is the relationships we build, the works of our hands, the blessings we share and the legacy we leave. While we serve the same God, follow the same commandments, and seek to do His will, we do it in different ways.

We are all a different combination of our personality type,  spiritual gifts,  learning style,  life experiences,  passions, talents and interests. While there are only so many different temperaments, when you layer on our unique gifts, experiences, skills, etc, there are so many possible combinations that no two people are exactly alike.

Within The Path section are the articles, lessons, and other resources to help you discover more about yourself. Learn about your personality type  and it’s strengths and weaknesses. Discover your spiritual gifts and begin to see the how the hand of God has been moving in your life in ways you never realized. Click here to start down The Path

Be A Hero

I found this ad just the other day and I love it! We have so many goof ups, mistakes, challenges and failings in our past that continually bump around in our head trying to distract us from moving ahead.

Stephen Covey first conveyed this thought – our power lies in our ability to chose our responses. It is that moment between situation and response where we choose to be a hero and move forward in a positive and pro-active way or we listen to those old voices and just give up.

Your past does not have to determine your future, today’s decisions do.

Update 1/01/10 – since I made the above post, Tiger Woods has fallen upon hard times – brought about by his own choices, obviously. It will be interesting to see how he chooses to respond. Will he face up to his mistakes and move forward with integrity and dignity?

More importantly – what challenges are you facing today? What mistakes are following you around? Will you choose to use them as opportunities for growth and move on?

As of this moment, Tiger is out of the spotlight – re-grouping and trying to figure out where to go from here. There’s a lesson for us in that. Sometimes we need to step back and re-group, too. It’s okay to take some time to reflect and even wallow a little bit in our errors. Just don’t stay there!

Finding Your Why

We all know about time management and using calendars to keep track of our days and to plan our steps, but we also need some gas to keep us going. The gas is your why. Your why is the reason you are running your own business in the first place. You have to dig a little deeper to find this, but once you do, it will give you the motivation to get back on your path even when the distractions are enormous.

By asking yourself “why” five times in a row, you will drill down into the real reasons behind your actions, beliefs or desires. You can use this method to problem solve any number of situations, but here is a brief peek at how it can work to give you unshakable motivation and energy to propel you to success:

Start by asking the obvious question. In this case it would be: Why do you want your own business?

Beyond the expected “to make more money, why else, silly?”  I’m asking you to think about what lifestyle you want. As you answer these questions for yourself, really think about what freedoms, material goods, or other benefits you want to gain from your business and by the end of this process you will have a much clearer vision, a compeling “why” to go after your dream! Here is an example of how someone might answer the five whys:

* “Why do I want to have my own business?” To make money from home.

* “Why do I want to make money from home?” I hate my job and I want to be home with my kids.

* “Why do I hate my job?” It doesn’t pay enough, the hours are long, the boss is a jerk, and I have to miss the kid’s soccer games.

* “Why do you have to miss the games?” Because I can’t get the time off.

* “Why can’t you get the time off?” I have to be in the office every hour it is open.

From this process, you could gather that while the obvious answer to “Why do I want my own business?” is: to make more money, the deeper answer is “I want the flexibility to be there for my children”.

Now you’ve reached a reason that resonates with your very soul. This is the reason that will motivate you to pick up the phone and make that call or start up the computer and write that article or do whatever step you’ve been putting off. Once you have spent some time digging deep into envisioning your why and fully identifying the results you want, now you can start to harvest the benefits of intense focus. This kind of focus, this kind of envisioning the life you want to live, will give you the energy and clarity you need to ignore distractions, to get back on track when you do get pulled away, and to help you really see what your next step is. When you get into this “zone” amazing things start to happen. Resources and mentors appear that have just the information or skill you need. Success starts to happen in ways you never dreamed of. You become like an airplane that has expended 80% of its energy just getting to its proper altitude, but once it’s there the rest of the trip takes much less effort.

Where can your “why” lead you?


You Can Have What You Want

Whatever you believe you can achieve. That phrase gets tossed out a lot, especially in conferences and rallys for business. We hear it so much, we tend to respond with “yeah, yeah, I’ve heard that before.” The good news is, it’s true. There is no “secret”, no “law of attraction” it is a simple truth available to anyone. You don’t have to pay $24.95 for a book to teach you the secret. It’s really very simple: you will move in the direction of your most dominant thoughts.

My son wants to reach a certain goal in his Boy Scout fundraiser. He’s been participating in this particular fundraiser for 6 years now. His first year, he started with a fairly small goal and every year has increased that. His motivation is not to be the top seller or hit a certain dollar level. He finds a prize he gets excited about and does what it takes to earn that prize.  Almost every year he has hit his goal. This year his goal is to sell $2400 worth of popcorn. He will probably make it, because he believes he can. He thinks not about failing, but about what it’s going to be like when he has his prize. His thoughts revolve not around the work, but about the reward. Here’s the kicker though. He’s not going to sit on the couch and meditate on his prize believing it will just magically show up. Some teachings would have you believe that if you want something badly enough and really, really think hard and focus on it, the universe is somehow obliged to give it to you with no other effort on your part.

Remember earlier I said you will MOVE in the direction of your most dominate thoughts? You can’t sit on the couch daydreaming, you actually have to do something, take some action. From the day the fundraiser started, my son has been asking “can we go out selling popcorn today?” He takes the form with him everywhere. He is constantly aware of his goal. Remember, he’s not thinking about the work. He’s not thinking about whether he can do it or not, he’s thinking about his reward.

Our minds are programmed naturally to act in ways that support what we believe. If he believes he will get that prize, doing the actions necessary to achieve it come much more easily. He doesn’t have to make a decision about what to do next, he knows he has to get sales so he goes out knocking on doors. Adults spend so much time thinking about what our next step should be and how we should do it, we get paralyzed by our over-thinking. We think about what needs to be done, we think about our past failures, we think about all the distractions in our lives. Kids don’t have that problem. They think about what they want.

Adults will often pursue goals with the idea of “I want to make more money”. Guess what? You don’t want more money. You want what the money can buy. You need to identify exactly what the money will do for you. Why do you want more money? To buy your freedom from a job? Why do you want freedom from your job? So you can go on vacation whenever you want? Why do you want to go on vacation? Because you love to travel or you enjoy visiting a particular location? Then that is your real goal: to travel, not to make more money. Do this exercise for yourself. Ask yourself why you want whatever it is you want. It may be you want to be your own boss. Well, then, why do you want to be your own boss. Once you have that answer, question that statement as well. Keep questioning your answers with another “why”. Do it at least five times, force yourself to dig deep and come up with an answer. Ultimately you will find what really motivates you and this will be your true goal, not some ambiguous “I want to quit my job”. My son’s goal is not to sell $2400 worth of popcorn. That’s a boring, meaningless goal. His goal is to sail along the neighborhood on a motorized scooter. He can see himself doing that. He knows how he will feel when he’s able to do that on a scooter he earned himself. That is what drives him to go out everyday wearing a uniform he says is uncomfortable, spending his free time knocking on doors.

Our thoughts are powerful. Just as we can achieve positive results by focusing on our goal, we can move toward negative consequences if that is where our thoughts are allowed to go. If you spend your free time reading the latest headlines, bemoaning the state of the economy, or worrying about a flu epidemic, you will get what you are focusing on. Does this mean your thoughts cause the flu? No, of course not. There is plenty of evidence though that people who have a negative outlook on life do tend to have more illness in their body. If you expend the power of your mental energy concentrating on what you don’t want, you definitely will not get what you do want. Our intention should always be to train our brain toward the postive. Consciously choose to think about where you want to go and what it’s going to be like when you get there. Obviously challenges do come up and we can’t ignore them thinking they will just go away because we’re not paying attention to them. But make your response appropriate to the situation. If a crisis in Afghanistan comes up, you can not do a thing about it unless you are the army general in charge of our forces there. Since you’re not, wasting your time freting and worrying only achieves one thing: it takes time and energy away from what you can control.

Where do you want to go? What lifestyle do you want to lead? You can have what you want if you are willing to do what it takes to get there.